In a world where computers basically hold the keys to our identity, it is no wonder people are doing their shopping online. People shop for cloths online, electronics, food, and even their underwear. Online shopping has swept the nation, and this doesn’t exclude shopping for romance. Online dating has quickly become the most popular way to meet the love of your life.
A long time ago, a guy had to go to a club, bar, or wedding to meet their perfect girl, now the perfect girl is sitting somewhere out there in cyber space waiting for you to click her picture.
Making Online Dating Work for You
In order for online dating to be successful you have to realize the truth about how it works. Remember that most girls get tons of replies daily, there really are hundreds of thousands of women using online dating worldwide, and if you want to meet your perfect someone, you have to set yourself apart from the rest of the world.
Online dating can only work if you make it work, sitting around waiting for responses is not going to make you appealing, you have to plan and dedicate a little piece of yourself to finding the girl of your dreams, your profile has to be your sales page.
Frequent Flyer Miles
Online dating has a sort of unwritten system that I like to compare to frequent flyer miles. With online dating, the more you update your profile the higher up you will go when girls see a list of people matching their criteria. The most recently updated profiles are always the ones displayed first for girls to see, so by updating every day you increase your chances of being seen, making it much easier to find a date.
The frequent flyer miles concept also works when it comes to checking listings. The more often you check the new listings, the quicker you can reply to new women. Since they are getting about ten messages for every one that you are getting, being one of the first guys to open communication is the best way to get a girls attention and have something that no one else has. Hearing something the first time is still special, while hearing it the tenth gets a little old.
Personalizing Your Profile
Your profile really is your sales pitch. If the first five lines aren’t interesting, you’re going to lose your audience. Most importantly, be yourself and make your profile witty, entertaining, and interesting. An essay about why you make the perfect man for any girl is not the way to go, girls don’t want to read a novel, keep it short and to the point and make it interesting. “I enjoy long walks on the beach…” doesn’t work anymore, so think of something fresh and unique.
The Perfect Reply to the Perfect Ad
This is where most guys trip up, when you are responding to a girl’s ad; keep in mind what she is looking for. Be funny and charming, don’t try and flatter her with compliments and gushy love stuff, the first message is the hook. You have to make her want you, instead of making it seem like you’re desperate for her. For example, “Hey, you’re really pretty and I think I could be the guy for you” is not a good way to get a girl hooked, that’s something that most guys would say. Instead try being a little cocky with some sarcasm, but don’t be mean. For instance, “I was browsing over all these boring faces looking for something interesting, when I found you and thought hey, AT LEAST she has gorgeous eyes.”
It sounds cocky and rude, but those things work, at least you will get something instead of nothing at all, which is the point after all.